Hey, y’all! Today, we’re diving into a topic that has been swirling around in my thoughts for a while now—destiny swapping.
Imagine you are in an episode of Black Mirror. In this episode, you have a close friend and you tell her your heart’s greatest desires. You tell her your life dreams: where you’re going to live, what you’ll be doing for work, and who you’ll fall in love with. Fast forward 10 years later. You find yourself living in your hometown. You feel stuck in your career. You are single as a dollar bill, even though you know you’re meant to be a Wife. Meanwhile, she lives in your dream city. She is working in your field of study. She is even married to someone that looks similar to your high school sweetheart!
If you’ve ever felt lost, or as if someone else is living your life, this post is for you. It’s time to talk about how to get your destiny back and reclaim your path.
What is Destiny Swapping?
Destiny swapping is this idea that you might have traded in your true purpose. This trade could be for something or someone else’s journey. It might happen gradually over time. Societal pressure or family expectations could cause it. Toxic relationships may also pull you in a direction not meant for you. You know what I’m talking about. These are the moments where you feel like you’re not walking in your truth. You have drifted off your original course. Somehow you’ve ended up in a life that doesn’t fully align with who you are.
Here’s the thing—your destiny is yours. But when you’ve given away your power, it’s easy to feel lost. When you’ve swapped your dreams to fit into a mold that wasn’t made for you, it’s easy to feel lost. The good news is: You can get your destiny back. Let’s dive into how!
1. Recognize the Swap
The first step in getting your destiny back is recognizing that you’ve swapped it in the first place. Ask yourself—Am I living the life I truly want? If the answer is “no,” that’s okay! Awareness is the key to change. Sometimes we get so caught up in being what others want us to be, or in fulfilling roles that aren’t aligned with our authentic self, that we forget our own desires. It’s time to pause and get real with yourself.
2. Detox from External Influence
I can’t stress this enough—clear out the noise. Social media, societal norms, even the expectations from loved ones, can make it easy to slip into a version of life that’s not yours. Take a step back and evaluate who and what is influencing your decisions. Is it serving your higher purpose? If not, it’s time to detox. This might look like setting boundaries, unplugging from digital spaces, or simply spending more time with yourself. You’ll be surprised how much clarity you gain when you silence the world around you.
3. Tap Back Into Your Inner Desires
Now that you’ve detoxed from external pressures, reconnect with yourself. What did you once dream about when you were younger? What are the passions and desires that have been buried deep? Sometimes, in the hustle of life, we forget the things that once lit us up. Take some time to rediscover those desires and don’t be afraid to dream big again. Your destiny is tied to your deepest passions, so get back to what makes you feel alive!
4. Release What No Longer Serves You
Let’s be real—you can’t reclaim your destiny while carrying baggage that no longer serves you. Whether it’s old beliefs, toxic people, or unhealed wounds, these things will hold you back. Take inventory of what’s weighing you down and begin the process of releasing them. This could be a job that doesn’t serve your purpose, a relationship that drains your energy, or even the inner dialogue that tells you “you can’t.” You can. But first, you have to make room.
5. Align with Your Higher Purpose
Once you’ve done the inner work, it’s time to get aligned. Your destiny is tied to your higher purpose, and once you start walking in alignment with that, opportunities, people, and resources will start to flow your way. Start saying yes to the things that feel like they’re taking you closer to your true self and no to the things that don’t. Your intuition is your compass, so trust it.
6. Call Your Power Back
Listen, you gave your power away when you swapped your destiny—but guess what? You can take it back. Every decision you make is a chance to reclaim that power. Start making choices that reflect your true self, and don’t be afraid to stand in your authenticity. When you reclaim your power, you stop living for others and start living for you. Your destiny has been waiting for you this whole time. It’s yours for the taking.
“I call my power back to me. All energy that was stolen from me may return to me in its fullness. It shall be for my benefit and harm none.”
7. Stay Consistent
Here’s the truth: reclaiming your destiny isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a continuous process of staying true to yourself, even when it’s hard. Stay consistent with the inner work, keep checking in with your desires, and don’t fall back into old patterns. You owe it to yourself to stay on the path that was meant for you.
It’s so easy to fall into a life that’s not your own, to get caught up in doing things because we think we “should” or because it’s what’s expected of us. But here’s the thing—your destiny is unique to you, and only you can walk that path. If you’ve swapped it somewhere along the way, that’s okay, because you have the power to take it back. It’s time to reclaim your journey, sis.
Walk in your truth, release what doesn’t serve you, and align with your higher self. Your destiny is calling.
Until next time, stay blessed and true to YOU.
Giselle
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