Dear Non-Black Women: Stop Telling Black Women How To Be Black Women

If you are not a black woman, then how (and WHY) are you telling other black women, how to BE black women?

I don’t like that.

Positive advice to help someone improve? Perhaps.

But blatant disrespect and tearing down black women for simply existing? I think tf not!

I have come across so many personalities in the metaverse, dedicated to keeping black women in their “place” in society and all I can think is: What the f%$! is that?

We (Okay I AM) are tired of everyone creating entire platforms off of what’s wrong with black women.

I googled this question as to WHY there are so many non-black women trying to guide black women to the ultimate version of womanhood and came across an article via Refinery 29 that pretty much suggests these topics originated from Steve Harvey’s “Think Like A Man,” movement from the early 2010s.

And I thought: WOW, a point.

This is old predictive mental programming.

This old way of thinking is outdated.

Because they are only creating this content for ENGAGEMENT, clickbait, and views.


There is no sincere interest in helping black women heal and live out their life’s dream.

Because once you heal, their platform is DONE!

Isn’t it ironic?!


There are one too many (black male) experts online, pushing toxic false narratives onto black women about how they should dress, how they should wear their hair, what they should study, who they should date, how they should date, who they should marry, when they should have kids, where they should live, when they should settle down, what they should listen to-no.

We are already under scrutiny daily, can we live in peace?!

As a black woman, that created an entire platform a decade ago to help black women HEAL, I’m calling it out. As for me and my mission, we are here to aid in the black woman’s journey to healing, radical self-love, and breaking generational curses, one day at a time!

Your motives are not pure, and you will be exposed.

See, these are the same old tricks from the old earth, where fear was the best way to keep people under control. But this won’t work in the New Earth. We are being called to vibrate higher, and the Divine Feminine is rising, as bright as the sun.

Honestly,

I want black women to win.

I want them to know they are Goddesses, and capable of manifesting their version of reality simply by living with intention and getting to know one’s self.

Building your self-esteem includes trusting your own gut.

Sometimes you’ll be wrong, but at least you created that version of reality for yourself so you could GROW AND LEARN from it!

Take notes from your OWN lived experiences because a lot of these non-black women telling black women how to BE are profiting off of your fears.

Your fear of:

being single,

being alone,

starting over,

being your own best friend,

failing,

trying something new.

But today, seek advice from your inner self.

Learn how to fight your own demons so you can ascend into the woman you KNOW you’re capable of being.

Learn more about who you are and who you are NOT, so you can live comfortably in your own skin, without someone telling you how you SHOULD be.

You don’t have time to sit around taking advice, get to work on yourself.

Get active in your own healing journey, ready player one?

It will be difficult to detach from this false matrix at first, but trust me, it will all be worth it the moment YOU decide it was worth it.

This message is channelling directly from a healed black woman.

And the God is within her, she cannot fail.

Photo by Dziana Hasanbekava on Pexels.com

Author: Giselle In The City

I’m Giselle, also known as Belle in the City Giselle. I’m the Founder of Giselle Ave. and a passionate Biz Consultant, currently creating my dream life! I reside in downtown Atlanta with my loving husband and my fur baby, Mr. Sidney, the Cat!

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